I have always been curious about why some of us end up in relationships that are utterly unhealthy for us. Alcoholics have AA, drug addicts have NA, so where does the person go who can’t let go of someone that is killing them? I have watched as friends and family sit back and let love destroy their lives. They hold on to it past the point of return. They dive into a pit of fire in the name of love. They take their own lives due to the lack of it.
I have this obsession running in my blood. Today I have decided to work on letting go of it. Healing myself from the obsession that it becomes. For too long now I have given relationships “just one more chance.” This of course can be compared to just one more hit or drink. The detox begins today. My tomorrows mean too damn much to me!
Found the article below in my online travels. Thought I would share it with those who understand where I’m coming from.
Freeing Yourself
Knowing When To Let Someone Go
Just as a good relationship can have a positive impact on your life, stressful, draining, or imbalanced relationships can have negative effects on your health and well-being. It’s common to maintain a relationship because we feel the other person needs us or we believe that they will eventually change. We may also be afraid of hurting the other person or feel insecure in our ability to find new relationships. But knowing when to end a relationship and acknowledging that the pain will pass can often prevent greater pain and feelings of loss in the long run.
If you’re in a relationship that isn’t satisfying or one that has become unhealthy for you, rather than spending energy attempting to fix the problem or complaining, ask yourself what you really want from the relationship. Consider whether the other person truly considers your feelings or if they are willing to change their behavior. Ask yourself if you’ve often thought about ending the relationship or if you feel your bonds have atrophied. While every relationship has ups and downs, when there are more downs than ups or the two of you are bringing out the worst in each other, it may be time to sever the connection. Be honest with yourself and your answers, even if the truth is painful.
Relationships thrive on honesty, communication, mutual caring, and time spent together. When one or more of these elements are missing, it may be that the relationship, no matter how passionate, simply isn’t worth it. It’s far better to end a relationship that doesn’t feel right than to hold on to it and languish in feelings of anger or resentment. Moving on without struggle, on the other hand, can be the door that leads you to a more nurturing relationship in the future.
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